In the spirit of the women’s day, I’m going to be writing about 2 major issues women face and note that these articles were written by me not today, i will write the year i wrote them below them.
Also i will be writing my personal experience as a woman.
We hear of this situation everyday, virtually every home, every family, it lives with them, it exsits, men, women , why?
Our mothers, our fathers and every one why do you embrace domestic violence? It lays an ambush for the future to come.
Let me shed more light on the topic of my article before i go on. Domestic vioence is the willingful intimidation, physical assault, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behaviour as part of a systematic of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another in a domestic setting like marriage or cohabitation.
I will discuss more about domestic violence in marriages and homes since that is the most popular scenario. One in three women world wide are affected by domestic violence, it is very rare to find a man victim although they are among but the majority affected are the women.
One would never guess what these victims go through because they refuse to walk around as victims and were this as a badge for the world to see and pity them for they don’t want anyone to see what they have been through because there is a shame attached to it, a sense of ‘self blame’ as if they deserved to be beaten or called names.
Why did you marry them if you knew you won’t treat them right?
Why did you take those vows if you knew you won’t bring out the best in him/her?
I plea don’t go into that covenant, that life time commitment, don’t take that oat nor make those vows if you would end up destroying their dreams and laying an ambush to all their desires for the relationship.
I now realise that they are many of us men, wonen, youth, children out there, thousands of us who have been hurt by people who were supposed to love and protect us. But I’m here to tell you, you are not a victim, you are a survivor.
Each of you has that grace to use your devastating past as a step stone to a great and brighter future.
Every story matters and every voice should be heard.
I STAND AS A VOICE FOR MEN, WOMEN, CHILDREN, YOUTHS, NIGERIA, AFRICA AND THE WORLD AT LARGE TO SAY PUT AN END TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
THE PUBLIC CRITIC
DISCRIMINATION AGAINST WOMEN.
A must read for all women young and old.
Discrimination against women is another social problem faced in our society. Women can be discriminated anywhere. Anyways before i move further, legislation has broadly defined discrimination against women as any distinction, exclusion or restrictions made on the basis of sex which has the effect or purpose of imparing or nullifying the recognition, enjoyments or exercise by women irrespective of their marital status, on a basis on equality of men and women of human right and fundamental freedom.
Women are discriminated in virtually every part of the world, some people think discrimination against women was only done in the olden days, but we also see it now, most of our men exercise it, they discriminate against us women but they don’t know, they see it as a part of life but I’m here to say NO.
We women are more than just cooks, washing machines, baby making machines, cleaners.
Why would you say you won’t send your daughter to school because she would end up in a man’s house? Who told you we can’t stand on our own? Who told you we can’t be the bread winners?
We can be what ever we want to be, we are women. We are strong, we are beautiful,smart, funny, kind , unique, we are worthy of love and affection, we are never too much we are always enough, we are precious, we are diamonds, roses, pearls, we are the most stunning of all God’s creations. We are worth more than we can ever imagine, worth more than the number on the scale, or the hair product we use. Your worth surpasses all earthly things because in the eyes of God you are loved.
Regardless of who you think you are the truth is you deserve someone who will give up their life for you because you are powerful and capable.
Read about the women in the Bible, Esther, Ruth, Martha, Mary, these women changed the world forever and each and everyone of you is a woman with that same world changing capability. THIS IS WHO YOU ARE, YOU ARE AWSOME. ( This paragraph was gotten from an inspirational video)
Don’t allow anyman to intimidate you, don’t let any mother or father put you down or make you feel inferior, you deserve the best, you deserve to be educated, to be groomed in a proper way, you don’t deserve to be sold out for marriage at a young age. Women can also lead,we are not followers, we are worth being respected.
Nobody in the world has any right whatsoever to discriminate against us ( women).
You are a woman, your voice deserves to be heard.
I STAND AS A VOICE FOR ALL WOMEN IN THE WORLD AND SAY PUT AN END TO DISCRIMINATION AGAINST WOMEN.
THE PUBLIC CRITIC
MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE SO FAR AS A WOMAN IN NIGERIA.
Nigeria is based in the west side of Africa and I’m sure we know Africa comes with so many socio- cultural issues especially to women. As i always say A woman is the most endangered specie ‘especially in Africa’.
Women are treated without respect here, without regard and like the ‘other being’ and i don’t think I’ve been an exception in any way.
The basic issues women face in Africa are;
• Domestic violence
• Body shaming
• Cat calling
• Trafficking and many more.
Domestic violence as i wrote in the early article is virtually everywhere, but personally I’ve never been a victim of it so i won’t go into details about it.
Body shaming, i don’t think there’s any girl in this earth that hasn’t been a victim of this, i personally have cried for this. Walking on the streets I’m being body shamed, sitting in class I’m being body shamed , talk less of other girls.
I live in Lagos, Nigeria here i can’t even go to the market without being body shamed.
Walking on the streets and hearing guys or rather men call me orobo (fat) funny enough I’m not close to fat.
Let me tell you one of my experience, i was on my way to the market one day and i had to take a bike (motorcycle). Where i stay there’s a junction where these bikes stay and wait for passengers. As i was coming towards them, two started calling me and i got in one and the other said he called me first to cut the long story short, in his anger of me not getting into his bike, he started saying I’m not fine and how my shape or my body was not fine too.
I was just like waw and started laughing. Does every insult have to be pushed to our body?
Another one was when i was in school, high school to be precise and an analysed told me how little my boobs were. What could i do but think when i got home.
Lol but at this point i really don’t care what anybody thinks about my body.
Ladies listen this should be your mind set; any one who is taller than me is too tall, anyone who is shorter than is too short, anyone who is finer than me is too fine, I’m just perfect.
Now, cat calling; it is actually related to body shaming. For example i can just be walking on the road and a guy starts calling and i refuse to answer and the same person that wanted to shoot his shot if i had answered him decides to tell me how ugly i am just because i refuse to answer him.
Discrimination; discrimination is not something i can finish writing about in a day. Let me give you an example of my friend, she’s a female basketballer in our university. One day she came to my room and was complaining how she and the other female basketballers are been neglected at the court just because they are female.
I know how boys tell me i don’t have any problem because i will end up marrying someone rich and won’t have to think of the future because it’s secured. My life doesn’t revolve around a husband. Most guys unconciously discriminate, please be sensitive of these things, they hurt.
Trafficking; I’ve also never been a victim of this so i can’t really say anything about it but it is also one of the problems we face here.
There are some misconceptions people have about me;
I know most girls like money, they can literally do anything. Don’t mean to sound proud but I’m not cheap. I don’t want anything from you i don’t need money, i can take care of myself. I have a father that sponsors me so why would i need a guy’s money. Guys should never think money impresses me or money can win me cause you are a joke if you think such.
Ok i think this is getting too long so i will stop here. Thank you for reading, don’t forget to like, share and comment your opinions.
I love you guys and happy weekend❤
HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY